Do you feel like a Zebra in a herd of Horses?

Everyone feels different sometimes, but for some of us, being different is our “normal”. It may have originated in our childhood as the result of an adoption, or perhaps a from a physical or spiritual difference. Maybe it stems from not meeting the expectations of someone you love and respect. You feel different and in some circles, you have to wear a disguise to fit in.

Humans naturally seek connection – a place to fit in and feel comfortable. Even when we find a place with like-minded people, we still have to function in other groups. In order to survive, we disguise our differences, hide them, or try to blend in. Our differences are like the stripes of a zebra. Living among those who fit the status quo, is like being a zebra living in a herd of horses. Same species, but with major differences.

Being different can be a source of joy and a reason to celebrate. It can also be a source of guilt or shame and can result in hiding parts of our true self. As a zebra in a herd of horses, sometimes we feel inadequate, feel like we have a target on our back or feel like we “stick out like a sore thumb.”